Breakups happen for many different reasons. Sometimes a small spat or disagreement will get blown out of proportion and lead to your ex stalking off in a huff. Another cause for breakup is when you start taking the him for granted and he begins to feel used and revolts. Yet another reason for breakup is when you might become too pushy and anxious for your boyfriend to commit. This has scared many a boyfriend to death and sent him running for the hills. And of course the big one – cheating!

The cause of the breakup will determine the method of getting your boyfriend to forgive you. If it was any of the reasons other than the cheating, an honest and sincere apology should get things back to normal again. Cheating is a whole different matter. This will require some doing and some real work on your part to regain his trust and love.

You are going to be facing a man that will be as angry and hurt as you will ever see him. It’s not easy for a man to face his friends after something like this happens. He can be the brunt of jokes and snide remarks. He will feel belittled and inadequate. You have betrayed him in the worst way and getting your ex boyfriend to forgive you won’t be an easy matter. But although you did the cheating and your ex boyfriend is rightfully feeling hurt, don’t put all the blame on yourself. You might have had a good reason or it could have been just a moment of weakness. So don’t beat yourself up too bad.

Your best ally right now is space. Put as much space between your ex boyfriend and you as possible. After a few weeks you might try emailing or texting your ex and see what happens. Don’t expect him to come running and tell you that everything is okay and he has completely forgiven you. Nice dreaming but it is not going to happen.

Getting your ex boyfriend to forgive you will take time, patience, determination and a very good and well thought out plan. You can get your ex back but it won’t happen over night. But if you love him and are truly sorry for your indiscretion, don’t give up hope.