I’m writing a paper on reasons why married women cheat and one of the reasons is because lack of sex.
I’m just looking for feedback. Please be as detailed as possible…
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My wife and me had sex 2 and 3 times a day and she still cheated
Cheating is not about the sex. Cheating is about being selfish. The cheater doesn’t care who he or she hurts by cheating. It’s not just their husband or wife. It hurts the parents, in-laws, kids, grandparents, co-workers, neighbors, friends, etc.
There are many reasons for men & women to cheat, so lack of sex is just one of them.
I think for women it is not a major reason to cheat.
That’s not the most common reason women cheat (that’s the most common reason men cheat).
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I didn’t. My first marriage was very poor on how much sex, and even then (months/years of no sex) I did not cheat on my ex. There was also abuse involved, but I knew it was wrong to cheat just because you were not having sex.
Women cheat because they are not getting a relationship or communication at home – not having sex is a lot lower on the list. On a man’s list not having sex would be pretty high for the excuse.
i am lucky if i get it once a month and i do not cheat not in the 6 yrs me and my bf have been together..he has a drinking promblem which effects that area in our life so cheating is not always about sex..sometimes it about the other person feeling liket the one they are with is not paying them enough attention or there for them.atleast that is the reason one of my ex’s years ago told me he cheated on me for..and then he left me, divorce me, married her ,and cheated on her
- No emotional support so if they find another man who listens and at least pretends to care, they may have sex with them
- They don’t do enough at home (clean up, help with kids etc) which is a turn off for some women…so they look elsewhere for sex
- Not enough money so the man they cheat might have money to share
Not all women do and sex is not always the reason.
With most women sex isn’t just sex. It is an emotional desire to want to be accepted and loved by a man. If she feels like she isn’t accepted as a beautiful women in her relationship, she may become weak and fall for men who think she is “Amazing and deserves so much better.” It’s not always the cheaters fault. Sometimes the other person involved has drived her to do this. Other men do not make it any easier when they tell a broken hearted lady how perfect she is.
Usually it’s not lack of sex. It’s mostly lack of emotional intimacy, and guys treating them like dogs. And no, that doesn’t mean that women can treat their men like dogs. It’s all a two-way street. You’re going to have to look at some reputable websites on the subject. But usually it’s because something is seriously lacking in the relationship.
the women i have known to cheat is because there men do not give them affection or attention
I’d say it was lack of intimacy more than a need to scratch an itch. If it was just about the physical need, there would be other alternatives.
Also, when your spouse, male or female, doesn’t have sex with you, it’s like they’re rejecting you. So you might go looking for someone who obviously wants you.
I find that it’s men who do that.
I think women often cheat because there is something already lacking in their other relationshi; intimacy. Obviously, they don’t feel loved by their previous partner. I think for men it is more about sex and physicality.
I have a friend who was married for 17 years. She and her husband had 2 children and after the 2nd child he had no interest in communication or sex. She is a good looking and smart woman and she stayed in the marriage for 11 years without sex. One day she reconnected with an old friend and things happened. The woman was starving for affection. I can tell you right now that this wasnt her fault..she didnt cheat..she was cheated out of emotional and physical love by this man she was married to. He kept her around for his own selfish reasons and she stayed trying to keep the family together until she discovered that she could be happy again. Yes..she started a relationship with another man and came clean with her husband shortly after the affair started. I might add that she is happily devoted to her new guy.
Though there are many haters on this board, I will say this much. People engage in extra-marital affairs for all sorts of reasons. It isn’t just sex. It can be a number of factors.
As a volunteer in-court mediator, I get my fair share of family cases.
At least half the marriages I see going through the court system involved infidelities. Of that half, a little over half of the remainder involved affairs committed by the wives and the rest by the husbands. In some cases both spouses had affairs during the marriage.
Of the ones that involved wives that engaged in affairs, most of them complained that they felt unloved or lack of affection, ignored, neglected, used, disrespected or abused by their husbands. In each case, they no longer respected their husbands and had at some point decided to end their marriages. In most of those cases the wives were the filers principally seeking the divorce.
So I would have to say its a lack of intimacy, neglect, being used, disrespect, or abuse or a combination thereof.
I would not, however, say that its sex exclusively. The extra-marital sex does play a role in the affairs at least at the outset, since a new sexual relationship provides new energy in either mens’ or womens’ lives. But I would also have to say the sex alone is secondary.
Never say never, however, since there was a small percentage of women who complained that there was a complete lack of sex in their marriages that drove them to their affairs. But usually that also involves the other factors as well.
In a very small number of the cases, the women had affairs because their husbands had affairs.
Again, the question is too broad in its literal sense, and too narrow in its application.
Therefore, I would have to conclude based on personal experience that “lack of sex” in the marriage alone is usually insufficient to spark an affair. Other larger factors come into play; however, that said in a small percentage lack of sex would be the motivating factor.
no, not when they lack sex. when they lack intimacy. sex is over rated. women need, want intimacy.
Men and women cheat for the same reason–the are selfish and think ONLY of themselves. The cheater wants fun, excitement without committment or problems that may arise. The cheater likes the excitement and often it is like hunting prey. The hunting makes them excited and once they get their prey the cheater has a false sense of security. The cheater feel indispensable, like if he/she are on the top of the world. The cheater is having their cake and eating it too.
The cheater sneeks around and is very mysterious which is fun and then the act of sex is better than ever because it is WRONG. It could be horrible, but to the cheater it is wonderful–because it is wrong. The cheater knows he/she is wrong and begins to develop reasons why he/she is having an affair–they must justify it to themselves. So, the scapegoat is of course the spouse. And the reasons are generic–not enough sex, didn’t pay attention to me, he/she gained weight, he/she makes me feel bad about myself, he/she is always complaining, or he/she is never home. The justification of the affair allows the cheater to feel they are in some way–right.
Cheaters are selfish people who only think of themselves and are unable to love anyone but themselves. Cheaters are insecure people who needs constant validation that they are attractive, needed, and wanted by others. Cheaters are immature and incapable of having a committed relationship. Cheaters do not stop. You can change the wife/husband but the behavior will continue at some point. Because the problem is the cheater!
…to be fulfilled sexually and passionately as a woman…